OMG! I am still cracking up over all of these stories in response to the last blog--great group stuff, thanks! Let's turn our attention to listening, an important part of good speech interaction.
The audience must be there for a speech to be heard and your book gives a lot of insight into being a good listener...tell us about some one you feel is a very good listener and just what makes them one. For double credit, use vocabulary from class or the textbook.
38 comments:
Well I tend to flock to people who are good listeners because ,I kind of like to talk. I know,I know you can't believe it,but it is true. I would have to say the best listener I know is my mom,she has been listening to my "bits" since I was two. She has never generalize other,she always been on my weird side. I love her! She comes to my shows now and is always so proud but, wonders why I say the F word and discuss "anatomy" so blatantly. Oh well what are you going to do?
Kelly Bolderson
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Kelly Pryce is the name!!
My boyfriend is a psychoanalyst, so talk about being with a good listener - - he's the man! He has critical listening down to a fine art. He listens to all aspects of what one has to say, and like it says in the book, he separates the facts from inferences. He evaluates not only what one says, but how it's said, body language, etc. I enjoy the fact that he truly listens and doesn't try to jump in with a "quick fix." I've learned a great deal from him.
I'd say my mom is an excellent listener, for some reason, she not only hears what you're saying but seems to be able to relate to just about anything you throw her way, and still find compassion for anyone. I suppose that and being able to just really hear where someone is coming from; relating, is a good indication that someone is listening and trying to understand.
jeremiah.
saturday.
Besides my husband, my father is a terrific listener. Since he lives in Louisiana--our conversations are always on the phone. We always have to have our monthly catch up on “the latest news” session. Of course, within a matter of a 45 minute-1 hour time frame. When I get a bit excited, I can talk a mile a minute…he listens patiently without stopping me. I guess he doesn’t have a choice or chance(smile)-I will always love and admire the way he always use logic and encouragement in his advice. I often learn a lot from his listening style…he always allows me to finish a thought before he starts talking.
Carla Quintella
Everyone that i socialize with on a personal level are good listeners. If I had a requirement for being my friend being a good listener would be one of the top three. listening is a skill that suprisingly we are not all graced with. I strongly believe that if you are unable to be a good listener you are limiting yourself on the ability to learn, both academicalyy and in life. I can not stand people who hate to listen, but love to talk.They do not have the ability to be that someone you can talk to if you need an ear. A good listener tunes into what you are saying so that if necessary they can give you advice or feedback accordingly. if i was forced to just give a name i would have to say my fiance because he always is a good listner and has yet to fail me.Karyn Qualls
One person who I recently found out that is a good listener is my mom. Now that we do not live in the same house she no longer has a need to constantly scream at me every time I do something that she does not agree with. We talk on the phone every now and then and she "really" listens. Unlike my friends she does not constantly interrupt my conversation with phrases such as "That's What She Said!" or other quotes from their favorite TV shows. She hears out what I have to say before making a comment whether she agrees with me or not. And thats what a good listener should do.
Sal Lopez
Well my boyfriend is a great listener. We talk for hours and usually Im the one doing all the talking. Whenever I want to give up on something he usually tell me that i will get through the problem and that usually perks me back up. He tries in many ways to give me advice for what is right and what is wrong. He trully is a great listner and great friend.
Well my boyfriend is a great listener. We talk for hours and usually Im the one doing all the talking. Whenever I want to give up on something he usually tell me that i will get through the problem and that usually perks me back up. He tries in many ways to give me advice for what is right and what is wrong. He trully is a great listner and great friend.
p.s sorry I forgot to put my name on the other one
Aida Lopez
My best friend Shalane is a very good listener. I could tell her anything and she will just sit there and listen to me. She isn't judgemental either. She always is there for me no matter what, wheither it is because I'm having problems with my mom or my husband. She is always there for me and I love her to death. She has been my best friend for 9 years already. She is like my other half.She knows me from head to toe. She always knows what to say or what not to say when I am feeling down. She is the bestest best friend ever.
-Marian Capulong
Well my family can never stop talking. Its so funny because I have and older sister that is 38 and because Im her sister she tell me everything. The funny thing is that she has two teenage daughters that are close to my age 17, and 19 and they tell me everything so i know everyones lil secrets. Hahaha. So when those secrets come out my sister would be like why didn't you tell me or my cousins (her daughters) would be like why didn't you tell me. I always get caught in the middle some how some way. Now get this. I'm a very good listener and I know all the lil secrets but i guess I talk way to much when I try to talk to my sister she tells me things i don't want to hear like she suposed to. Then i talk tyo my cousins and you know what they tell me.... SHUT UP!!!!!
Porsha Yancey
I think Sandra is a good listener! She heard everything our class said and was empathetic when needed. I have yet to have a teacher like her. Enjoy her while you can. Soon your class will be over and you will surely miss her like I do!!
Wish they could make more teachers like her!
An "Old Student"
Kelley A. Linn
P.S. Miss you Sandra!
i don't want to get all mushy on you guys, but i think there are two people in my life who are the best listeners i could ever ask for. the first is my best friend,jessica, who is always there for me. she'll comfort me anytime i need it, and i'll always be there for her. the second is my boyfriend/fiance, Sal (short for Louis Salvatore) who is the love of my life, all i could ever ask for and more. we'll always listen to each other when we need it, despite the fact that we're both hardheaded and like to talk :)
***** Colleen O'Neill *****
Hands down, my dad is my favorite person to talk to. I can tell him anything and he knows just what to say everytime, and it always ends with humor! If it wasn't for him, I'd still be making bad decisions and getting into trouble. Now if I really want to do something that's probably going to hurt or get me in a bad spot, I call my dad for advice...and if I still do it, I call him to bail me out! lol. he is the greatest listener and advice giver I know!!!
Jessica Alm
Saturday Class
I think the best listener I know is my step-mom, she is so optimistic and upbeat all of the time....kinda the opposite of me lol. So whenever we talk she always listens to everything I say and somehow comes up with a positive solution or at least some encouraging words to make me feel better.
Jessica Blocker
Quote on Karyn Qualls's world "I strongly believe that if you are unable to be a good listener you are limiting yourself on the ability to learn, both academicalyy and in life." I am taking a costomer service on comminication class. I found listening to people are so important,especially you work on the customer servise position. By the way, my classmate Ariane is the best listener I have seen. Also, she told me that because of her listening skill, she can memerise most of the name she heard. To become a good listener, we should take our time to listen what other people are really saying. We are always have to much to say and forget to listien to others. As a result, we are easily to make assumption. In addition, we are avoiding message from what we listien to because our emotion. To be a listener, we should listen carefully, take notes if necessary, repeat or summerize what we have hear help better understanding. Also, someting we have to read speaker's nonverbal language as well. Eventhough what they are saying from their mounth don't really mean what they want to mean. That's my opinion on listening. This is Wanling Liang (cherie)from Satuday class.
I would have to say my brother is the best listener I know. He isn't like me. I mean I know how to be respectful for a group speaker, but when it comes to one on one conversation, I am highly opinionated and usually end up interrupting constantly. Unless it is one of my friends who is even more chatty than me, and I cant get a word in no matter how hard I try. But, mysteriously, I still have a lot of people ask me my advice about things, probably because they know I will have some sort of input on it.
Anyways, my brother, he stays very quiet and attentive and doesnt interrupt unless you prompt him to respond. It takes a lot of patience, especially with me and when I go off.... He also maintains eye contact. Which I think is important with speaking and listening. Although I must admit I find myself staring away at someones mouth, watching them speak and not hearing a word. But I am a super astronaut sometimes. Also, he is always able to open his mind and view all aspects of a situation instead of being biased or using generalized others. Lastly I think that it is important not to "wait to talk" while you are listening to someone.
This is Kate Hall
t/th
Well I saw phrase for a listener that I liked from the book and its called a selfish listener. it sounds harsh at first but all it explains is that if your focus is just on listening to the person then you take in everything youll need to know. I would have to call my mom a selfish listener to me because it just seems no matter what I talk to her about she understands from every level and I love her for that. I know moms need a listener to sometimes so I try to be a wonderful listener to her as well.
Deanna Bradac
I have a very close friend who is living in China. Our friendship started 20 years ago. I should say she's kind of people-oriented listener. I like to share my feeling with her since she is always positive, energetic and constructive. She spent lots of her time with me while I was having hard time. Not only she but also her family game me strong support. I love them.
After I left China, we don't talk each other very often, but each time when I talk to her, I can feel her unconditionally support to me. That's what an English saying "A friend in need is a friend indeed."
Peiyi
I have to say my buddy Steve is a good listener. I think mostly because I tell him all the juicy rumors about my life, work and relationships. He always seems to interested what weekly events happen. He seems to remember where we last spoke, asking questions about what happened between our talks. Most of the time he's laughing or making fun of me, but totally paying attention.
Jason Hieronimus
Saturday
My mother is my best friend and a great listener. She always listens fully and is non-judgmental. She offers sound advice and is not afraid of telling me something I might not want to hear. There is nothing I cannot tell her without confidence that she will listen, be understanding and give genuine input.
Kelli Rodriguez
My mother is a great listener, every crazy idea I have ever had she has entertained. It doesn’t matter what I am talking about she does her best to understand, and get involved with what I am thinking. My mother is a great active listener, who always gives even the craziest of ideas her utmost attention.
The person who I would say is a good listener is my sister. She is the only person who listen to my problems and would actually give me adivce on what I should do. She is always there for me when I need her the most. Even though, I am older than her she tend to be more mature than me. She love to listen not just only me, but other people too. She's a person you can actually rely on to listen and its a good things she my sister.
-Maiker Yang
The best listener I know is my Grandma. When I just need to complain I can go down and vent to her. She will sit and listen to me, and understand where i am coming from, and when I am done. She goes over what I am saying to calm me down.
~victoria davis
When I was In High School I was part of the ASB group which stands fot Associated Student Body and I was the Vice president. I miss it now but I am trying to join this group called MAR which stands for Mujeres Ayudando a la Raza its a group of hispanic women helping our community and as well having fun meeting new people. What I like about group projects is that u dont have to worry about it just yourself but what I hate about it is that sometimes you end up doing something you dont agree with.
Lizzeth Lopez
hmmmm thats a hard one, i have three people in my life that i would say are the best listeners...the first one in my life is my dad...my dad is my best friend, i can tell him everything,and he is always there to listen to my problems or whatever is going on in my life. i love him so much for that. i have a really special bond with my dad that i am proud to say i have. my other best friend and a great lister is my cousin vanessa, we have gone through so much together she knows my history, she knows me inside out....she is always there to listen to me and give me advice...my other person in my life is my roommate natasia, she is my best friend and when i dont have time to call either my dad or vanessa i know natasia will be there to listen and help me...i loves these people in my life!!
marissa soto
When I need someone to listen to me, well, the perfect person that I can think of to go to is my grandmother. She looks at me attentively and nodding her head. She lets me finish with what I have to say and at the end of it all, she gives me her oppinion or suggestion.
Lucia Guerrero
The only person i can really say lends me an ear everytime i need one is my cousin. you have to imagine that he is a good listener because he lives all the way in the bay area and still i can talk to him about anything. a good listener to me has to be non-judgemental, not interrupt, and give some acknowledgement to what im saying. i know my cousin isnt always interested in my problems but he never makes me feel that way.
alicia m. t/th
You all are such an interesting bunch--Neat to hear about special peeps in your lives! See you in class! Smiles--S
My older sister is the person who I feel is the best listener. whenever I am having any problems I know that I can go to my sister and she will always be there to hear my problems and help me out in any way. She has given me the best advice and encoraged me to do better.
Anthony Guzman
My mom is the best listener around. She is very loving and likes to help me out in any way she can. Which is great because I can be a big baby! She always listens closely and doesn't interrupt or start a different conversation and she makes sure to hear everything I have to say. When she responds she goes over what I said to show she heard me and understands me, and she gives her opinion or response. She is very truthful but puts me first. She is a great listener!
Alli Moser
I would say the best listener in my life I have is my ex of 3 1/2 years. We always went through our up and downs, but we learned a lot from each other just by listening. She knows me the best besides my family and I think that is great. Unlike my family (because I think it's natural instinct for your family to always be "positive" and supportive) she will not hesitate to tell me the truth whether it be bad or good. She is a great listener and I love how I can tell how she feels about the subject we're talking about through her body and eye actions. I like listeners that are real and don't beat around the bush. I like hearing true comments and feelings even though sometimes it's hard, but at least it's the truth.
George Furuhashi
Well since I don't like to open up much to people I guess the best listener for me is myself. Whenever I need somone to talk to i'm always there. I always listen and give myself great feedback. I also feel i'm a great listener for other people because I think the best way to learn is to not talk and take in all the information you can. So listening is a great learning tool, thats why I practice it. So I guess I could be the best listener.
Michael G. T/Th
Well of course this would have to be my mother. She is the one I go to for problems and information. What makes her a good listener is the fact that she cares, someone who doesnt care doesnt have interest and tends not to listen. She looks me in the eye and acknowledges what i have to say by nodding her head and giving me advice.
-nick barker
i have several people i talk to about various things. i think they are all good listeners but if i had to choose one i'd say my friend Ted is probably the best. He just gives really good advice and is sort of a mentor to me.
- Raveen Sharma
Andrew says,
My dad is a great listener. He will listen to what i have to say,then he will give me feedback and examples when I need help.
I feel my mom's a great listener. She endures all my long winded discusions about how stupid a person is or how boring my day was, and doesn't interupt me in the process. I used to think she just was daydreaming while I talked, but i found out that she really was paying attention. No matter the importance of the discussion, she stays alert until the end. She almost like my best friend in a way, our relationship is weird compared to other mother and son relationships. I talk to her about EVERTHING and ANYTHING, and yet I have friends whose parents don't have a clue of what lives they are living.
Rolan Boutte
I find that the person that I know who is the best at listening is my best friend Chris. He is able to help you with almost any problem, and lead you to the solution without telling you what to do.
Leah
The only person i can really say lends me an ear everytime i need one is my cousin. you have to imagine that he is a good listener because he lives all the way in the bay area and still i can talk to him about anything. a good listener to me has to be non-judgemental, not interrupt, and give some acknowledgement to what im saying. i know my cousin isnt always interested in my problems but he never makes me feel that way. alicia m. t/th
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