Hi Everyone! This week we focus on the self in communication. As you prepare to begin your "Who am I?" Research paper, consider the four attachment styles: secure, dismissive, fearful and anxious/resistant--Here is a website that labels and identifies the four slightly differently: http://psychology.about.com/od/loveandattraction/ss/attachmentstyle.htm
Think of a favorite character in a book, film, band or tv show. Name them and take a guess at analyzing them--Yes, that's right, be their therapist for 5 minutes and determine which attachment style they probably have. What do you know about them that makes your observation valid, Dr. ___________??? Use your book to fully understand and explain attachment styles in this 5-6 sentence posting--Thanks!
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My favorite character or story is Charlotte's web. Although I like all the characters in the story who I am more partial to is Charlotte the spider. What I like about Charlotte is that she is secure enough in who she is that she is willing to help others with their issues particularly Wilbur. Throughout the story of Charlotte's Web she was the leader, she encouraged others when they were down like Wilbur, put people in their place when they acted out like Templeton the rat, and fought to save Wilbur's life. She was secure in her position as a spider although small she held the group of animals together.
Zakiyyah
Cute Z! But how did the way she was raised contribute to Charlotte's secure style? Attachment styles are determined by care giving patterns. I love this example! Sandra
My favorite character is Lisbeth Salander from the The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo book trilogy. I think the type of attachment style she has is dismissive. When she was younger, she tried to kill her father because he was abusive towards her mother and almost killed her but the authorities did not do anything about it, instead they covered it up because he was a defected former Russian spy who had valuable information. She learned to distrust the authorities because they did not listen to her and was put into a psychiatric unit for knowing too much about her father. Because of this, she isolates herself from society and avoids getting too close to people. Whenever people try to get to know her by asking questions about her, she would not even bother to answer them. Even the few people that see her often barely know anything about her. She sees herself as a person but see everyone else not worthy of being a part of her life.
Kim Lieng Kel
My favorite character from a TV show is Spongebob Squarepants. Though he is a very complicated character to give an attachment style to, I would say he has a positive attachment style. He is very outgoing and affectionate. He knows every customers' name that walks into the Krusty Krab, and will sing a tune to the lonely bus driver. He is always willing to make new friends; it's how he got one of his bestfriends: Sandy Cheeks. He is very affectionate in that he still loves Squidward after all the mean things he has heard from him. He always lends money to his absolute bestfriend Patrick and trusts that he'll give only his friendship in return. He does get disappointed every now and then, but it does not take much to get him happy again. He can sing a song or go to Goofy Goofy Goobers and be cheered right up.
Leslie Aguada
awesome!!!
In the book Charlotte's Webat the end of the movie Charlotte gave birth to other kids and then passed away. The kids that were born most of them left after hatching. I would say for Charlotte's case she was pretty much raised on her own, so she had to learn early to take care and look out for herself which gave her the leadership abilities that she possed. But going on a limb I believe that that relationships she encountered on the farm helped to nuture her caring about others, since most animals/insects on a farm are kept together they develop close knit friendships similiar to that of a family. And through her friend/familial relationships she was able to not only be a leader but secure in who she was as a spider as well. (Not to mention the fact that since she was a female she possessed GIRL POWER!!)
Zakiyyah HIll
My favorite character in Reese Whiterspoon in her film of “Legally Blonde 1.” Her character in the film was to get into Harvard University to get back with her former boyfriend. But she discovered that he was engaged to another women; therefore, her heart was broken and she planned to leave the school. But soon later, she found another man who gave her advice. She decided to stay and she graduated from Harvard University. Whitherspoon have a secure attachment style. Even though her relationship ended with her former boyfriend, she remains at Harvard University and graduated as one of the top student.
Ling Vuong
My favorite character is Junie B Jones from the Junie B Jones by Barbra Park, after reading multiple series of the book, i would say her attachment style would be secure, because she's very postive outlook on life, she can dress up what ever she wants to be for example she wanted to be a barber her parents allowed her to play barber, she's not affraid to tell her parents how she feels.When she's frighten or has a trouble day she sees comfort from her parents. I realized her personality is very blunt, she's straight foward especially to her friends. if she don't like what her friends are doing she says this. She's not afraid to speak her mind. Her parents support her wether her idea are outrages.
Tina Ho
One of my favorite characters is Arthur Dent from the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. From what I gather about the character, his attachment style is anxious/ambivalent. Clues to this are his experiences with his primary love interest, Trillian, who he met on Earth vanishes from his life only to be spotted again after the planet is destroyed. After travelling with her, she disappears again. Further, partway through the books when Arthur winds up on a prehistoric new Earth he's alone without any other humans to interact with, severely altering his personality and further fostering his anxiety toward relationships.
-- Alex Carlson
My favorite character is 23 year old Fiona Gallagher from the show "Shameless". Her single father is an alcoholic, who lives in bars going from unemployment check to unemployment check- so as the oldest of her 4 siblings, she takes on the role of mothering them. Fiona is a secure person for the sake of her family. With a father that is absent the majority of the time, she wants to hold the family together and provide them with a secure "maternal figure" that they really need. She's able to take the reigns of leading her family and keep them as a unit, and at the end of the day is comfortable in who she is. She even stood up to her own father when he punched his son, and she said "Don't you ever touch one of my kids again." She's poor yet hardworking, and at the end of the day is comfortable enough to stand on her own without help from anybody else to provide for her family, all while remaining confident and collected during the obstacles that are thrown at her.
--Maggie Cabrey
My favorite character is Elizabeth Bennett from Pride and Prejudice. Elizabeth is a secure attachment style. It is obvious very early on that she is very much loved by her father, "Well, Lizzie has more wit than the rest," and perhaps through his own "sensible" behavior learned to behave in the same way.
Their mother is frivolous, sometimes even downright condescending to her daughters (there are five) as when she comes into Elizabeth's bedroom prior to the family leaving for a ball says to Lizzie, "You'll never be as pretty as your sister Jane, but I will say you look very well indeed!"
At this pronouncement, Elizabeth rolls her eyes.
To me this indicates that she has lived with her mother's impertinent remarks and dismisses them with ease.
She is secure with who she is, her standing in the community; knows that she is dearly loved by father, respected by her sisters and other relatives. She refuses to marry a man who is wealthy because he hurts her sister's chance at happiness. She remarks to her sister Jane that she will marry for love or not at all."So ... I shall end an old maid, and teach your children to embroider cushions and play their instruments very ill."
She shows her integrity, and humility, (security as a person) when she apologizes to Mr. Darcy when she realizes that she has wronged him. And goes so far as to defend him to her father.
She stands firm in her opinions, and is willing to change her views when presented with facts to support a change.
In the end we see the love the father has for his daughter, (the solid foundation of love Lizzie's life was formed upon) when he learns Lizzie desires to marry Mr. Darcy.
Lizzie: "He is truly the best man I have ever known."
Mr. Bennett: "Well, my dear, if this be the case, he deserves you. I could not have parted with you to anyone less worthy, Lizzy."
Suzanne E.
My favorite show growing up was winnie the pooh. I loved tiger but im going to talk about Piglet because Piglet is the smallest character and is usually always scared and runs to his friends when he is scared or needs comfort. To me I would say Piglet has the fearful attachment because when he has a problem like being afraid he runs to others for comfort.
Daniel Easter
One of my favorite story is Into the Wild, a non-fiction story by Jon Krakauer. The book was about Christopher McCandless, who gave up everything to embark on a one-man trek to Alaska. I describe his attachment style as dismissive. He was smart and confident, but lacked the ability to form strong and meaningful bonds with others (including his parents).
Throughout his journey he met a few people along the way, but he never established a significant relationship with them. He could not even share his real name. From what I can remember, Krakauer did not provide much detail about the relationship Christopher had with his parents, except that the father was absent most of the time due to the father's work-travel and extramarital affair with the previous wife. I was also under the impression that the parents were preoccupied with their marital problems during his childhood.
-R. Cuison
My character would be beaver on leav it to beaver, I would say that he was secure. He came from a family that was loving and everyday he came home his mother had lunch ready for them. Beaver was very secure in who he was although,sometimes he would surrender to his friends and do something that he knew was wrong. Beaver was still very secure andwilling to help others. He also stood up for what he believed in. Catina
One of my favorite character's from a t.v. (anime) show is Mitsy from Shin-Chan. The show is about a 5yr. old boy and his extreme day to day adventures with his stay-at-home mom and baby sister. The father works so he is in out of the episodes.
Its my favorite mostly because I relate dramatically to the characters behavior when I was a stay-at-home mom. Shin, the son, attachment style is secure but his mother has a dismissive attachment. Shin is confident in his mother's love and isn't inhibited in any way which (for him particularly) encourages misbehavior. Because the mother, Mitsy, has a dismissive attachment she is often unaware of his conduct. Her dismissive attachment makes her a clutter with her tasks.
In one episode Shin purposely sleeps late in order not to go to school. By the time Mitsy realizes Shin may not catch the bus (for the 20th time), she barely feeds him, his clothes are a mess, their running around the house to get out the door as quickly as possible - so the house is left in a mess. Shin doesn't have his homework or bookbag and none of this matters as long as he gets to the bus stop in time.
I imagine if Mitsy's parents had given her a more secure attachment to them she would be better at focusing her priorities and time. If Mitsy had parents that everyday got her off to school in the appropriate prompt manner perhaps them taking that care and acknowledgement would have enabled her to be more organized. This attentiveness, although small in the example is a fraction of the effect in being dismissive. Or maybe she just is naturally scrambled.
p.s. i LOVE Into the Wild
One of my favorite character in the movie Titanic is Rose. She was raised in the royal family. In the reality, most of the children who are raised in the wealthy family, the upper class in the society, often receive more love and care from their parents. Therefore, I would say her attachment style is secure. However, there is another attachment style that can describe her in the movie is anxious/ ambivalent attachment style. The reason was her mother gave her the hard time about her romantic relationship. She treated her very indifferent and rejected when she refused to stay with her fiance and decided to come with Jack. I like her in the movie because she could realize the definition of true love from Jack.
In the beginning of the movie Shrek the main character Shrek would be classified as a fearful attachment style. This is true because he is mistreated for being an ogre. Since others treat him in a negative way Shrek feels and acts as if he is unworthy of love. It isn't until he makes friends that accept him that he is able to experience love and feel like he has self worth. -Devin Kearns
I had a hard time thinking of my favorite character so I asked my daughter who hers was and she said Ramona from "Beezus and Ramona."
I would say that Ramona has a very secure attachment style. She was very creative and pretty outspoken. Throughout the movie you see her parents foster that creativity and they worked together to make sure their children weren't effected too much by the fathers recent unemployment. Ramona's parents, in my opinion, are the perfect example of how parents parent in order to allow their children to get to the ideal attachment style.
Ooops, the previous comment was by Vanessa Monsibaiz =)
One of my favorite characters is Katherine Heigl...in the movie "Life as we know it". I would have to say her attachment style is secure. Katheine as Holly in the movie is stable, confident in what she wants. She is honest and a straigh up character. She acts very responsible and when a tragity occured in her friends life she was loyal and did her best to take care of the situation. she stands up for right is right and trys her best to get along with Messer the other main chracter in the movie. She is a professional baker in the video and know exactly what she wants to do and were her future stands and what need to be done to get to that point.
-Olga Fanina
One of my favorite character is Reese Whiterspoon from the film Legally Blonde. I would describe her as having the secure attachment style. She started off by enrolling into a law school in order to get her boyfriend back. Her boyfriend treated her as a pretty dumb blond, who was not capable of doing anything but to look pretty. She took on a challenge to prove to her ex-boyfriend that she does not need him and will be a great lawyer, which she accomplished. Another reason I would place her in a secure attachment category is in the movie, the teacher or the head lawyer that Ms. Whiterspoon worked with, had tried to come on to her to give a good position in the law firm, but she had too much value and respect for herself rejecting that offer instantly.
Adleen Prasad
My favorite character is James from Roald Dahl’s James and the Giant Peach. James has a secure attachment style as his mother and father always gave him much love and attention. After his parents passed away and he was sent to live with his evil aunts, he continued to have a positive outlook on life and dreamed of going to New York City. He became very independent at a young age and learned to take care of himself as his aunt’s would not care for him. Despite the fact that he was forced to avoid contact with the rest of the world by his aunts, he still remained compassionate, caring, and trusting towards others and developed meaningful friendships once he had escaped from his aunts’ house.
Vickshna Anand
My favorite character is Gru from Despicable Me. I think the attachment style that fits him is the dismissive attachment style. From the start of the movie, you see that he does not like other people much. It starts off with him seeing a little boy crying. So, he decides to make the boy a balloon animal which cheers him up. With the boy happy, Gru takes out a needle and pops the balloon animal in front of his face. Gru thinks very highly of himself and very lowly of others. Turns out that his mom did not give him any attention as he was a boy. With all of his achievements and inspirations growing up, his mom didn't care to acknowledge him in the slightest bit. She would carry on with what she was doing, which affected how he acted as an adult. As the movie progresses, you can see that Gru changes from being very bitter to a caring father figure to the three little girls.
Quang Nguyen
One of my favorite character is Naruto from the anime Naruto. I know that when I talk about anime or manga, people would think it's unreal, the charaters is made up. But what I like this character is the way he lives. He was born with a difficult fate that make people avoid him. But he never give up. This is the most important thing to make a secure attachment style on him. Make him to be acknowledge by everyone.
Hai Tran
The character I am using is Danny Vinyard from the movie American History X. He is a child that grows up fatherless and a mother he rarely sees due to work and sickness. Danny's father figure is his brother, he is an agressive racist skin head that tries to raise his siblings while also following his abusive racist lifestyle. I would call Danny and his brother's attachment style anxious/ ambivalent. His brother tells him he loves him and would do anything for him but when it comes to looking out for his best interests he ignores him. His brother influences him in such a negative way by introducing him to the arian lifestyle and beliefs. The violence, then love, then neglect, and security his brother provided him with was quite confusing for Danny to grasp but in the end they ended up transitioning into more of a secure attachment style.
-Michael Arredondo
The favorite character I choose for this response is Heathcliff from Wuthering Heights; He was adopted by a middle class family but was treated as a slave once the adopter was dead. I think he finally developed anxious/ambivalent attachment style after his close female friend named Catherine chooses to marry into a wealthy family instead of following her true love to Heathcliff. Heathcliff ends up having sort of a split personality that part of him loves Catharine and the other hates her. Classic gothic characters should some what have anxious/ambivalent attachment to them.
Ho Hwang
My favorite character would have to be Spongebob from the t.v show Spongebob Squarepants. He's a very caring,loving and a happy Sponge you'll see him disapointed or sad once in a blue moon. Spongebob is the kind of person that you can get happy and on his feet in no time if he's in a bad mood. the rest of the time you'll see him super duper happy at work with Squidward. even though Squidward doesn't like Spongebob,Spongebob still thinks Squidward as his best pal. Spongebob doesn't hold grudges or takes anything to the heart. When he's out with his Best friend Patrick he's always excited to make new friends. I'd have to agree with Leslie where she said that Spongebob is always lending money to Patrick. Although Patrick never pays him back Spongebob doesn't care about getting his money back like Leslie said he only wants his friendship in return.
Amira Jamshaid
My favorite character is Dwight K. Schrute from The Office. I would say he has a secure attachment style. He is always telling people how to do things and how the way he does it is the right way. He considers himself the alpha male in the office. Because he considers himself to be better then everybody else they play jokes on him.
Michael Drummond
One of my favorite characters would have to be Woody from Toy Story. I would say Woody has a secure attachment style. He "grew up" with Andy's family, and they were a very loving family. You don't see the family as much but it appears Andy takes care of his sister and listens to his mom and he takes good care of his toys. Also Andy's mom always had a gentle way of handling things. Woody is the head toy, he takes care of all the toys he even makes sure their batteries get replaced on time. Woody gets a little insecure when Buzz first comes around thinking he is going to take over everything, but eventually finds it in his heart to welcome Buzz to the family. In Toy Story 2 and 3, you see their relationship get even stronger, Buzz helps the gang search for Woody when he gets kidnapped. All the toys know they can count on Woody so they all look out for him too.
~ Anmol Kaur
My favorite character is Woody from the "Toy Story" movie. Woody has a confident personality, his role as a room leader is totally positive for the group, and he always finds the best way to resolve any problem with his friends. I think Woody can be classified on the type of secure attachment style. Andy's protection and love for his favorite toy "Woody" creates a toy with a heart that reflects affection and is able to handle any situation for good or for bad. Woody always transmits a great self-esteem and shows friendship with loyalty.
Armida G. Lee
My favorite charecter is Jonas from "The Giver". The setting in "The Giver" takes place in a society that attempts to create a 'perfect society'. Everyone is assigned a role and occupation based on the Elders' decision. Additionally, adults are assigned children. That means newborns were assigned to strangers as parents. The word "love" is a taboo of this society. The relationships between parent and child in this society were treated as assigned roles rather than family- because of this I believe all the children of this society were raised with dismissive attachment style.
-Dan Phan
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I think I will pick Bella from Twilight.... I think she was raised in a one parent home and due to the abcense of her mother is a bit insecure. This effects the decisions that she makes. Her father however gives her some security at arms length. It seems that he loves and deeply cares about his daughters well being but leaves her to figure alot out on her own. As if he feels unable to set boundries. So I would waiver between dimissive/secure attachment styles.....
Kim Ramm
My favorite character would be Holden Caulfield from the novel A Catcher in the Rye. Holden has obivous psychological issues, but his psychological afflictions give him an refreshingly unique perspective on the world around him, making him my all time favorite character. Holdens past is revealed solely from his point of view which is biased and distorted making it a bit of a guess as to exactly what influences affected his upbringing and shaped him into his character in the novel. It is safe to categorize Holden as an avoidant attachment style. Holden runs away from home and school and feels isolatd and alone, referring to everyone around him as "phonies". Holden has trouble with authoritative, parental figures and seldomly speaks of his own parents. Signs of being an avoidant include having problems with intimacy, difficulty sharing emotions and thoughts to others, and little interest in developing social and romantic relationships. Holden fits all of these signs and therefore it is safe to assume that he has an avoidant attachment style.
-Chrystia Cabral
My favorite character is snookie from the mtv show jersey shore. Her personality is one that I would look for in a close friend. She is a very kind, loving, and friendly person with a great sense of humor. However, when it comes to her loved ones she defends them and has their back till the end. I would label her attatchment as secure because by the way she loves and cherishes her friendships and relationsips, it is obvious that is what she was raised with. She has a family who really loves her and she has always been surrounded with positive people and many great friends which has greatly influenced the caring, loving and positive person she is.
Lampel Ruiz
my favorite character is Ari Gold from the show Entourage. Ari is an well known acting agent in Hollywood that gets what he wants cause he can talk your socks off. Very slick with the mouth. Ari is workaholic never takes time off and always has to be on top of his game. through out the show ARI always gets what he wants at the end cause he is passionate and dedicated to his clients. Best of all he always speaks his mind not caring what anyone thinks.
my favorite character is Ari Gold from the show Entourage. Ari is an well known acting agent in Hollywood that gets what he wants cause he can talk your socks off. Very slick with the mouth. Ari is workaholic never takes time off and always has to be on top of his game. through out the show ARI always gets what he wants at the end cause he is passionate and dedicated to his clients. Best of all he always speaks his mind not caring what anyone thinks.
My favorite character is Vince from "Friday Night Lights." I feel that his attachment style is fearful because he has grown up with a rough childhood in the ghetto of Dillon Texas and he doesn't want to go back to being that kid who is a problem causer and being in and out of juvi. This is why he plays football with such a chip on his shoulder because he is trying to get out of his horrible situation and he doesn't want to fall back to being that bad kid. If you watch him play it looks like he plays like he is scared of something all the time and that something is going back to the person he was before football.
Kevin Rorke
My favorite character is Carly Shay from iCarly. I chose Carly because she is a strong, sharp minded teen who is secure about herself. She always gives good advice and mediates for her two closest friends, Freddy and Sam. Freddy and Sam are constantly fighting (more like Sam is constantly beating up on Freddy). Carly is always jolly and upbeat. She is a girly girl compared to Sam. Sam is a girl who doesn't take crap from any one. In this group of friends, Carly is the one who holds the bond of their friendship.
Teng Xiong
The character I wish to discuss is Bruce Wayne from the movie "The Dark Knight". He is a hero to Gotham City who faces the powerful criminals of that city. However, when he does not know what to do in tough situations, he always comes back to his house where his butler/friend/adviser Alfred Pennyworth. His supply of useful advice to Bruce and his likeness as a fatherly figure provides Bruce with a "Safe Haven" type of attachment.
Manider Sekhon
my favorite t.v. show character jethro gibbs from ncis, as i examine his attachment style it is a little difficult to clearly put my hand on his specific style shows sign of abusive behavior toward certain indivduals but it seems its his way of showing that he cares and they respond to it in a positive way he also shows purely loving behavior as well, it seems he does whatever he needs to to get through to his people.
-neal vickers
My favorite character is Sonny from "Sonny with a chance". She is very out going. She is always happy. Although she do have some down time. She tries really hard to make her friends smile. Also keep her relationship with Chad. Sonny is always upbeat about everything.
-Ka Bao Lor
I just watched true grit, so lets use that.
Rooster Cogburn has a dismissive attachment style towards the young girl interested in hiring him.
Emily Droszcz
jeffrey kelly(i did the wrong post)-hey my favorite is alex from storm breaker.what i like about him is that he tries to figure out who he really is and he shows a fearful attachment style because he doesnt know who his grandpa really is and who he is going to become
My favorite character from a movie that I really liked was the dentist from The Hangover. He portrayed what I believe is all four aspects of attachment styles throughout the movie. For one, with his wife he was secure, but she was very dismissive towards him. He was secure because he knew there was going to be someone at home waiting when he came back from "wine tasting" in Napa, that is what he told her. In the movie they guys really go to Vegas. I think the dentist did a great job in portraying security as an attachment style.
Kris Sen
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